PUFF, PASS, PLEASURE?
BY: SHANNON DEGROOMS | SEPTEMBER 25TH, 2018
Gather in a women’s circle underneath a full moon and have better orgasms?!?
That’s exactly what cannabis sensuality coach, Carli Jo, explained as part of the opening ritual of Puff, Pass, Pleasure, a monthly women’s circle created to “share flower, discuss sexual health and experience a guided meditation to activate an (sexually) energetic flow state to connect to your power source.”
I know—it’s a lot. Particularly given my own sexual barriers and inherent cynicism, but I went anyway. Because that’s what you do when you’re seeking to learn everything there is to know about a sacred medicine. And my findings, all too often seen as taboo, continue to shock even cynical me.
Last months circle, held at a private Santa Monica residence on the last Sunday of August, under a perfectly full moon, was no exception.
Those present learned about the ancestral power and antique importance of women who gather together to dance and talk— how our brains begin to produce “absurd amounts” of the pleasure, social-boding and sexual hormone, oxytocin. Now imagine that paired with the mindful consumption of cannabis under the energetic power of a Full Moon?
I was torn, yet after remaining as present as humanly possible for 2 hours, encased by 15 women/yn from various parts of the world, I think I get it.
There was a performance artist from Toronto. A dancer. A pair of youthful southerners whose melanin gleamed well after the sun had set. One has been attending Carli Jo’s circles since their origination. That alone spoke volumes.
“I never in my life experienced something so powerful!” explained the woman positioned across from me.
Then there was our fearless facilitator, Carli Jo —a Sensuality Coach, Cannabis Consultant and certified Aerial Yoga Instructor who made no apologies for reclaiming her sexual power in a way that’s now serving others.
In my search of empirical data into women's sexual health, I realized what short supply there is, but I was able to draw some clear conclusions from my own experience as an attendee. The most glaring for me is that feeling safe is directly linked to feeling comfortable discussing sex, let alone being comfortable enough to group hum while imagining a “fiery ball of sacred energy” pulsing throughout my body.
WhIle I wasn’t able to harness the full potential of that fiery ball of energy, I knew that I felt safe.
To my left and to my right sat women whose daily negotiation of a progressively sexist world, at least on some level, resembled my own. i guess I’ve always found comfort in knowing i’M not alone.
Statistics assure me that out of the 15 women present, I wasn’t the only sexual-trauma survivor there. I could have been, but I doubt it. 1 in 6 women have been raped or sexually assaulted, after-all. I couldn’t have been the only one managing a mental-health condition, either. If there’s one thing I’ve learned since battling chronic-illnesses, it’s that there is sisterhood in our struggles and community in our curiosity. That’s exactly what I felt: sisterhood and a safety to ask anything, with a newfound gratitude for women’s gatherings as an aid in healing sexual traumas.
As women, we’ve been conditioned to think, feel, and believe negatively our sexualities. What better time to reclaim our feminine power than when the world is also waking up to its potential?
Carli Jo knows that participating in circles, or hiring a sensuality coach can be frightening. To allow for optimal comfort, she offers free exploration sessions to anyone interested in her services. “I know how vulnerable it can be to receive guidance, especially on a topic so "private" in our culture as sex. But please know that feeling sexy, experiencing pleasure and having epic orgasms is our birthright!” It’s just no one taught us that." she asserts.
She further explains how many of us struggle to “accept, celebrate, and love our sexuality”.
“Which is why most of us need a little guidance, I know I did!”
Whether that guidance is attending one of her future sensuality gatherings, following her #HIGHPUSSY hashtag on Instagram, or consulting Carli Jo herself to help confront long-standing sexual barriers, why not take the opportunity to explore yourself more?
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